{"id":2649,"date":"2026-01-20T21:04:41","date_gmt":"2026-01-21T03:04:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/?p=2649"},"modified":"2026-01-20T21:04:42","modified_gmt":"2026-01-21T03:04:42","slug":"5-reasons-you-should-stop-ignoring-romance-so-you-can-rekindle-love-and-build-connection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2026\/01\/20\/5-reasons-you-should-stop-ignoring-romance-so-you-can-rekindle-love-and-build-connection\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Reasons You Should Stop Ignoring Romance, So You Can Rekindle Love and Build Connection"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If the spark feels like it\u2019s gone out in your marriage, or you\u2019ve told yourself romance just isn\u2019t a priority anymore\u2014this installment will help you see why ignoring romance could actually be creating distance between you and your spouse. And, how to rekindle love and rebuild connection starting today\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I remember a time when romance in my marriage felt, well, like a memory. We were busy\u2014managing the day-to-day. It wasn\u2019t that we didn\u2019t love each other; it just felt like life had crowded out the little moments of tenderness and fun that used to come naturally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One morning when I was having my quiet time, I thought about how distant my husband and I had become. I missed us. I missed the laughter, the flirting, the spontaneous date nights. So, I prayed: \u201cLord, teach me how to bring joy and romance back into this marriage\u2014even here, even now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I thought: \u201cWhat is one little thing I could do to change things?\u201d I sent him a text asking if he wanted another cup of coffee, and I\u2019d bring it to him. He said yes, and as little of a gesture as that sounds it changed our morning routine. I bring him coffee every morning now and it\u2019s romantic. I love our connection. We have a chance to ask what each of us has going for the day. I realized if we were going to do more together and get out of our old routine, I could use my imagination and I\u2019d came up with a list of fun things we\u2019d done in the past for easy date nights, a movie, (and not just staying home watching Netflix together), going for a drive together and having lunch in a nearby town, walking after dinner, country dancing. We now actually have time, we just need to become creative.&nbsp; Once I used my imagination and came up with some ideas, he in turn came up with ideas. We didn\u2019t make it a big deal. He became a priority for me. We just put romance back into our life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;God showed me is this: Romance isn\u2019t a luxury. It\u2019s a lifeline to connection. It\u2019s not about grand gestures or expensive dates\u2014it\u2019s about intentional love that reminds your spouse: \u201cYou still matter to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5 Reasons You Should Stop Ignoring Romance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reason 1: Romance Builds Connection<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Romance creates emotional intimacy\u2014it\u2019s the heartbeat of closeness.\u2028When you intentionally connect, you remind each other that you\u2019re teammates, not just housemates. Start by showing affection again\u2014hold hands, give compliments, or leave a kind note. Simple things speak volumes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reason 2: Romance Rekindles Desire<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Desire fades when we stop pursuing each other.\u2028When life gets busy, we forget that attraction grows through attention and appreciation.\u2028Be intentional\u2014plan a date night, dress up a little, send a sweet text. Small sparks often ignite the biggest flames.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reason 3: Romance Strengthens Communication<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Romantic gestures open the door to deeper conversations. It\u2019s easier to talk honestly when you feel emotionally safe and valued.\u2028Ask open-ended questions, share memories of when you first fell in love, and practice really listening without multitasking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reason 4: Romance Reflects God\u2019s Design for Love<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Marriage was meant to mirror God\u2019s love\u2014passionate, personal, and unconditional.\u2028When we express affection, we echo the joy and tenderness of God\u2019s heart toward us.\u2028Invite God into your marriage\u2014pray about it, express gratitude for one another, and let your love story be a reflection of His grace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reason 5: Romance Restores Joy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Joy fades when routine takes over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we neglect romance, we lose one of God\u2019s sweetest gifts\u2014delight in one another.\u2028Laugh together again. Be playful. Surprise your spouse with something thoughtful. Joy is a choice, and romance often opens the door to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Romance is not optional\u2014it\u2019s the oxygen of a thriving marriage.\u2028<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To recap:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Romance builds connection.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Romance rekindles desire.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Romance strengthens communication.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Romance reflects God\u2019s design for love.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Romance restores joy.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Friend, your marriage isn\u2019t meant to just survive\u2014it\u2019s meant to flourish.\u2028And romance? It\u2019s one of the most powerful ways to invite God\u2019s beauty and connection back into your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter how long you\u2019ve been married or how far apart you\u2019ve grown, you can rekindle love. Start small, stay consistent, and invite God to breathe life into the places that feel dry. Because when you stop ignoring romance, you make space for connection\u2014and you open the door for God to write a new chapter in your marriage story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-text-color has-pale-pink-color has-alpha-channel-opacity has-pale-pink-background-color has-background is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">New to The Best-Life Project?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Please read these foundational posts:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2023\/01\/14\/best-life-dream-story\/\">Best Life Dream Story<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2023\/02\/18\/best-life-definition\/\">Best-Life Definition<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Read More from This Author:<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/author\/monette-sedberry\/\">Monette Sedberry<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"551\" height=\"666\" src=\"http:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024.jpg\" alt=\"Smiling blonde woman\" class=\"wp-image-1059\" style=\"aspect-ratio:0.8273426868753226;width:199px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024.jpg 551w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024-248x300.jpg 248w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024-300x363.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 551px) 100vw, 551px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Monette Sedberry<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Monette Sedberry is the host of the weekly podcast Miracle Marriage Makeover, where she encourages Christian empty-nester wives to rebuild connection, spark fresh joy, and invite God back into the center of their marriage. A lifelong learner and storyteller, Monette shares practical wisdom, faith-filled mindset shifts, and honest reflections from her own journey\u2014both on her podcast and here at The Best-Life Project. Her words flow with honesty and compassion, giving women hope that change is possible.<br>Monette lives in Albuquerque, NM with her husband Leland. They have three adult children and love adventuring, traveling, and savoring this new season of life together. Learn more at:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/linktr.ee\/Miracle_Marriage\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">http:\/\/linktr.ee\/Miracle_Marriage<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If the spark feels like it\u2019s gone out in your marriage, or you\u2019ve told yourself romance just isn\u2019t a priority anymore\u2014this installment will help you see why ignoring romance could actually be creating distance between you and your spouse. 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