{"id":2677,"date":"2026-02-01T08:03:58","date_gmt":"2026-02-01T14:03:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/?p=2677"},"modified":"2026-02-01T08:18:57","modified_gmt":"2026-02-01T14:18:57","slug":"tips-to-help-rekindle-romance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2026\/02\/01\/tips-to-help-rekindle-romance\/","title":{"rendered":"Tips to Help Rekindle Romance"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019ve been trying to figure out how to rebuild that spark\u2014that love connection\u2014with your spouse, but everything feels awkward, forced, or just off, this post is for you. I\u2019m sharing the marriage tips that helped me rekindle romance when our connection felt like it was fading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There was a season when my husband and I were just missing each other. We weren\u2019t fighting, we were just living parallel lives. The laughter that once came so easily now felt rare, and conversations were mostly about schedules, or what needed to be done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I remember one day, watching one of those silly Hallmark movies. I was watching this couple walking hand-in-hand and I felt a pang in my chest. I missed that kind of closeness, the kind that didn\u2019t feel like work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, I prayed, \u201cLord, I don\u2019t want us to just coexist. Show me how to rebuild that love connection again.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And He did. Not through big dramatic moments\u2014but through small, intentional steps that opened the door to deeper connection and joy again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It wasn\u2019t long after that I was sitting on my side porch and a thought came to me: \u201cMonette you really want to start lifting weights and you want to get physically stronger. What if you share this with Leland? What if you guys figured out how to do this together.\u201d That is when I went upstairs and said: \u201cI need to lift weights to build some muscle. You know so much more about that than I do.\u201d He had played football in college and had the weightlifting background. That was the beginning of a beautiful change we both experienced. We went to 24-Hour Fitness and got a free personal fitness session together. We figured out a time to meet to lift weights together. 2:00, three times a week. This was huge, we both not only got physically stronger but our emotional connection deepened. We were doing something together that benefited both of us. This was a turning point!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m going to share with you Marriage Tips to Rekindle Romance and Build Connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Tip 1: Rebuild Communication with Curiosity<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Communication isn\u2019t just about talking\u2014it\u2019s about truly understanding each other again. This takes mental effort and being intentional. When you get curious instead of critical, you invite openness instead of defensiveness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ask your spouse about something you haven\u2019t asked him about in years\u2014his dreams, his worries, what he\u2019s been thinking about lately. Curiosity creates emotional safety, which builds connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Take a few minutes and make a list of your similar interests. This exercise will stir up some ideas to create more connecting conversations. I feel sometimes we just get comfortable with each other, and we miss the opportunity to get to know our spouse on a deeper level. Frankly, we get lazy. I\u2019m guilty of this!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Tip 2: Rekindle Romance Through Small, Daily Gestures<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Romance doesn\u2019t always look like grand gestures\u2014it\u2019s often found in the small, consistent acts of love. These small moments remind your spouse that he&#8217;s still seen and valued.\u2028Here are some tips: try leaving a note, planning a simple breakfast together, or send a funny reel you know will make him laugh and say: \u201cthis reminds me of us!\u201d The consistency of care rekindles warmth and trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Tip 3: Prioritize Presence Over Perfection<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Connection grows when you\u2019re present\u2014even in imperfect moments. Many couples lose intimacy because they focus on fixing problems rather than being with each other.\u2028Here\u2019s a thought, regardless whose cooking or cleaning at dinner time, I have found actually hanging out in the kitchen with the other person, being in proximity, creates connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I have to be honest here, my husband is an amazing chef, I can take this for granted, I do the clean-up. When I spend time visiting with him while he\u2019s creating some great meal, it creates a fun, light time for both of us. It\u2019s in these small moments together we become closer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Tip 4: Invite God Into Your Connection<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>God designed marriage to reflect His love, and that includes intimacy, joy, and tenderness. Without Him at the center, we start relying only on our emotions or effort\u2014and both eventually run dry. Here\u2019s an idea you\u2019ll hear me share a lot: pray for your spouse by name. Ask God to show you how He sees him. Prayer softens hearts and renews love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My prayers are not complicated or formal.&nbsp; Sometimes don\u2019t you find yourself being irritated for no reason? This is when I shoot up bullet prayers, like Lord let me not bring this attitude into my marriage. Please let this feeling be fleeting. Lord guard my marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Tip 5: Remember\u2014Love Is a Choice, Not a Feeling<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Feelings fade, but commitment deepens when we choose love daily. When we treat love as an action\u2014serving, forgiving, showing up\u2014passion and connection follow naturally.\u2028How do we do this?&nbsp; Make small choices every day that say, \u201cYou matter to me.\u201d A text, a kind word, a touch on the arm\u2014love grows through consistency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I want you to ponder this question and write down what comes to mind.\u2028 \u201cWhat\u2019s one small way you can choose love today, even if you don\u2019t feel like it?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Wrap Up &amp; Recap<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The five marriage tips\u2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rebuild communication with curiosity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rekindle romance through small, daily gestures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Prioritize presence over perfection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Invite God into your connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember\u2014love is a daily choice, not a feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Romance isn\u2019t something that fades and never returns. It can be reignited when you choose to lean in, listen, and love with intention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is my prayer\u2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2028\u201cLord, thank You for the gift of marriage. Help us see our spouses the way You do\u2014with patience, tenderness, and grace. Teach us to love deeply and to build a connection that reflects Your heart.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling stuck or distant, take heart\u2014rebuilding connection doesn\u2019t happen overnight, but it does happen with intention. Start small, keep showing up, and watch what God can do. Because with Him, it\u2019s never too late to rekindle love and rebuild your marriage story. God has miracles for your marriage; I am living proof!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-text-color has-pale-pink-color has-alpha-channel-opacity has-pale-pink-background-color has-background is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">New to The Best-Life Project?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Please read these foundational posts:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2023\/01\/14\/best-life-dream-story\/\">Best Life Dream Story<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2023\/02\/18\/best-life-definition\/\">Best-Life Definition<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Read More from This Author:<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/author\/monette-sedberry\/\">Monette Sedberry<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"551\" height=\"666\" src=\"http:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024.jpg\" alt=\"Smiling blonde woman\" class=\"wp-image-1059\" style=\"aspect-ratio:0.8273426868753226;width:255px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024.jpg 551w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024-248x300.jpg 248w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Monette-2024-300x363.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 551px) 100vw, 551px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Monette Sedberry<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Monette Sedberry is the host of the weekly podcast Midlife Marriage Makeover, where she encourages Christian empty-nester wives to rebuild connection, spark fresh joy, and invite God back into the center of their marriage. A lifelong learner and storyteller, Monette shares practical wisdom, faith-filled mindset shifts, and honest reflections from her own journey\u2014both on her podcast and here at The Best-Life Project. Her words flow with honesty and compassion, giving women hope that change is possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>Monette lives in Albuquerque, NM with her husband Leland. They have three adult children and love adventuring, traveling, and savoring this new season of life together. Learn more at:&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/linktr.ee\/Miracle_Marriage\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">http:\/\/linktr.ee\/Miracle_Marriage<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you\u2019re feeling stuck or distant, take heart\u2014rebuilding connection doesn\u2019t happen overnight, but it does happen with intention. Start small, keep showing up, and watch what God can do. Because with Him, it\u2019s never too late to rekindle love and rebuild your marriage story. 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