What I\u2019ve been doing this month has put me in a whole new frame of mind about the people I love most.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In fact, today I feel more in love with my husband and more appreciative of my family than I have in years. And it all started with one simple exercise I\u2019ve been faithfully practicing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Want to know the secret?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s just one powerful question:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201c<\/strong>What do I want to think and feel about this person?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Let me give you an example.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I think about my husband, here\u2019s what I choose<\/em> to focus on:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now here\u2019s the beautiful part\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I think these thoughts, look at what I feel:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I feel grateful. Doesn\u2019t that feel good just reading it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s the quiet magic of intentionally setting your mind on what is good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, could I think irritating or annoying thoughts about him?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course! He\u2019s human\u2026 and so am I. \ud83d\ude0a<\/p>\n\n\n\n But here\u2019s the real question: How do I feel when I focus on those thoughts?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Not great.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And at this stage of life, I don\u2019t want to feel \u201cnot great\u201d any more than necessary. I want to feel peaceful, grateful, and connected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, I\u2019ve made a simple but powerful choice: Here\u2019s the fascinating part\u2014God designed our brains in an incredible way. Whatever we consistently think about begins to feel more true to us. Psychologists call this confirmation bias.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n In simple terms? Your brain starts looking for proof of whatever you tell it to look for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, when I fill my mind with these loving thoughts about my husband, my brain goes to work finding evidence everywhere:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cOh look\u2014there he is being thoughtful again.\u201d And the bonus?<\/p>\n\n\n\n The loving feelings naturally follow.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n So let me ask you, sweet friend:<\/p>\n\n\n\n What do you<\/em> want to think and feel about the people you love?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Why not try this simple little exercise and see what shifts for you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n You just might find \u2014 like I did \u2014 that February becomes your own beautiful Month of Love.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Please read these foundational posts:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Best Life Dream Story<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Best-Life Definition<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Christy Largent<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Christy Largent<\/strong> is a motivational speaker, painter, and joy enthusiast based in Texas. After decades as an interior designer and professional speaker, she\u2019s now inspiring women everywhere to embrace their Empty Nest years as a fresh season of discovery. Through her art, writing, and storytelling, Christy encourages others to live with purpose, laughter, and faith\u2014because joy truly is made visible.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Follow her at ChristyLargent.com<\/a> or on Instagram @ChristyLargent<\/a> for a daily dose of color, creativity, and encouragement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Yes, Valentine\u2019s Day has come and gone. We\u2019re deep into the Winter Olympics and settling into what I like to call the dog days of winter. So, tell me\u2014how was your Valentine\u2019s Day? Lots of chocolate, roses, and cards professing undying love? No? Me neither. \ud83d\ude0a But that\u2019s actually okay. 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I feel thankful.
I feel secure.
And yes\u2014I feel deeply in love with this wonderful man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I intentionally choose the thoughts that create the feelings I want.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThere he goes, taking care of us.\u201d
\u201cYep\u2026 still that steady, reliable man.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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