{"id":286,"date":"2023-02-23T17:50:09","date_gmt":"2023-02-23T23:50:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/?p=286"},"modified":"2023-10-12T21:31:23","modified_gmt":"2023-10-13T02:31:23","slug":"the-simple-thing-i-wish-id-done-while-my-mother-was-still-alive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2023\/02\/23\/the-simple-thing-i-wish-id-done-while-my-mother-was-still-alive\/","title":{"rendered":"The Simple Thing I Wish I\u2019d Done While My Mother Was Still Alive"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>My mother lived with me for the last two years of her life. She moved in with my husband and me because she was no longer able to take of herself. At her home in Palm Springs, following a scary hospital visit, we had 24\/7 care for her and it was gastly expensive. As soon as that crisis was over and she was well enough, she moved to Texas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Like many who move mom (or dad) in, it was done with little lead time. Mom came here and I moved her into our guest room. I made modifications to the room to make it work better for her. I changed out the second bedroom to be a sitting room for her. She had a professional caregiver come in twice a week who helped her shower and gave me a break.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">My One Regret<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>As her health continued to improve, I made sure she had a good social life. She loved to shop. I know the last couple years of her life were good. But there is one thing I wish I\u2019d done for her\u2014I have only one regret.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/325133698_1192601301383717_607688041881429403_n-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-289\" style=\"width:492px;height:656px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/325133698_1192601301383717_607688041881429403_n-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/325133698_1192601301383717_607688041881429403_n-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/325133698_1192601301383717_607688041881429403_n-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/325133698_1192601301383717_607688041881429403_n-300x400.jpg 300w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/325133698_1192601301383717_607688041881429403_n-850x1133.jpg 850w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/325133698_1192601301383717_607688041881429403_n.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>A luxury tub\/shower conversion<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>When Mom moved in, I had been flipping houses. She needed enough care that I couldn\u2019t work any longer; I couldn\u2019t be gone from the house from 8:00-6:00. After almost a year, I got a call to remodel someone\u2019s bathroom\u2014which launched me into my current career as a remodeling contractor (<a href=\"https:\/\/thepersonalities.com\/marita-littauer-and-chuck-tedder\">read more here<\/a>). That first job was a master bathroom. We changed out the small shower and garden tub for a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/victorioushomes\/photos\/pb.100052521344447.-2207520000.\/4052580124792901\/?type=3\">large, curbless walk-in shower<\/a>. I\u2019ve done a lot of bathrooms and kitchens since then and have an amazing <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/media\/set\/?set=a.5540770885973810&amp;type=3\">portfolio<\/a>. But it wasn\u2019t until more recently that I was asked to simply change out a standard\/tub shower for a basic walk-in shower. I have found that we can do it for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/photo\/?fbid=738136341280404&amp;set=a.553695323057841\">as little as $3500<\/a>\u2014though $5000 is more realistic\u2014but we can always spend more. The tub\/shower conversion in the photo above was done for an older couple and was in the higher price point. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Asking for Trouble<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Since I found out how easy and cost-effective it is to change a tub\/shower into a walk-in shower, I wish I had done that for my mother. This is even more important for the elderly who are still living in their own homes and taking care of themselves. I believe no elderly person should have to climb over a bathtub edge to bathe. Doing so, is asking for trouble. In my mother\u2019s case, she had help getting into the shower, but I still wish it was easier for her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A few weeks ago, I got a call from a women who needed her dad\u2019s tub\/shower converted and he needed it done right away as he\u2019d been in the hospital, then in rehab. He was coming home soon and needed a walk-in shower. It took four days including the grab bars we put in on three sides of the shower, it was just under $3500. Both daughter and dad were thrilled with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/photo\/?fbid=738139137946791&amp;set=a.553695323057841\">the finished product<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Cost-Effective<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There are three key elements of this time- and cost-effective conversion. First, we used a prefab shower pan\u2014which at the time of this writing is about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lowes.com\/pd\/MAAX-Highland-6032-Shower-Base-RH\/5001794217\">$300<\/a>. Next, we use budget friendly tile. Here, in Lubbock, we have Sutherlands Home Base. They have a lot of close-outs or seconds. For the project for the father coming home from the hospital, the total tile costs, including the accent tile was $84. In that price range, they only have a couple options in grey and a couple in beige, but if you like what they have, and cost is a major factor, it is a great deal. Wherever you live, there may be somewhere similar. The third is plumbing fixtures. Can you do with the basics available at your local Lowe\u2019s or Home Depot or do you want a fancy finish or extra features? If you want the option of having both the regular showerhead and a handheld that can function separately or independently\u2014using a diverter valve, and a rod (which can also serve as a grab bar) on which the hand-held can travel (as shown above), we are looking at around $1000. When dollars are a big concern, you can do a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.homedepot.com\/p\/MOEN-Attract-with-Magnetix-Single-Handle-6-Spray-5-5-in-Shower-Faucet-in-Spot-Resist-Brushed-Nickel-Valve-Included-82975SRN\/314096221\">showerhead\/hand-held unit with the valve for about $200<\/a>. For the elderly, I believe a hand-held is essential. It allows them to bathe while seated.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/261841716_4943826122334959_4074681034242771477_n-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-290\" style=\"width:218px;height:290px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/261841716_4943826122334959_4074681034242771477_n-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/261841716_4943826122334959_4074681034242771477_n-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/261841716_4943826122334959_4074681034242771477_n-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/261841716_4943826122334959_4074681034242771477_n-300x400.jpg 300w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/261841716_4943826122334959_4074681034242771477_n-850x1133.jpg 850w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/261841716_4943826122334959_4074681034242771477_n.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>Corner bench in a tub\/shower conversion. <\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Speaking of being seated, this is important. For the most budget conscious, you\u2019d have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.homedepot.com\/p\/Drive-Medical-Grey-Bathroom-Safety-Shower-Tub-Bench-Chair-RTL12203KDR\/204124172\">shower seat<\/a>. If you can spend a little more, you can do a custom shower floor and a corner bench. I don\u2019t recommend a built-in bench on a pre-fab floor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have an elderly parent, either living on their own or in your home, who is having to bathe by climbing over a bathtub edge, I encourage you to consider his\/her safety and comfort and look into changing the tub\/shower combo out for a walk-in shower. It is not that big a project and it will likely improve the home\u2019s value. Don\u2019t let this be your regret.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"960\" height=\"950\" src=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/marita-2022.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-238\" style=\"width:148px;height:146px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/marita-2022.jpg 960w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/marita-2022-300x297.jpg 300w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/marita-2022-768x760.jpg 768w, https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/marita-2022-850x841.jpg 850w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Marita Littauer Tedder<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><em>Marita has spent the majority of her adult life working with women\u2014helping them improve relationships, achieve their speaking and writing dreams, and being the best version of themselves they can possibly be. The author of 20 books, this Living Our Best Life Project is her newest effort\u2014through which she hopes to challenge women to be fulfilled where they are.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Since I found out how easy and cost-effective it is to change a tub\/shower into a walk-in shower, I wish I had done that for my mother. This is even more important for the elderly who are still living in their own homes and taking care of themselves. I believe no elderly person should have to climb over a bathtub edge to bathe. 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