{"id":2877,"date":"2026-04-23T15:44:35","date_gmt":"2026-04-23T20:44:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/?p=2877"},"modified":"2026-04-23T15:44:36","modified_gmt":"2026-04-23T20:44:36","slug":"five-ways-to-awaken-desire-gods-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livingyourbestlife60plus.com\/blog\/2026\/04\/23\/five-ways-to-awaken-desire-gods-way\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00a0Five Ways to Awaken Desire God\u2019s Way"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

God\u2019s design for sexual intimacy isn\u2019t about perfection or trying harder. It\u2019s about choosing love first\u2014consistently, intentionally, and faithfully. When you love your husband because you see him as God made him, not because you want to change him, desire awakens naturally. And that\u2019s what this post is all about: how to align your heart, your mind, and your marriage with God\u2019s blueprint for love, connection, and intimacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to take you back to a time I remember just not feeling that sexually attracted to my husband, for some reason I just didn\u2019t feel interested\u2014if you know what I mean. We were acting more like roommates. I kept thinking to myself, Monette you are distracted by all the things you\u2019re involved in and to be honest, my marriage was not at the top of the list. It felt like one more thing to put attention in to on my to-do list. That\u2019s when I got a huge wakeup call from God and knew he was trying to get my attention. I had a friend who had been married much longer than me, call and tell me \u201cI don\u2019t think my marriage is going to survive, can we get together, I need someone to talk to.\u201d Meeting with her the next few months was the wakeup call I needed. I realized how I was taking my relationship with my husband for granted. Walking alongside my friend, who did eventually divorce, was something I had a hard time wrapping my head around. That\u2019s when everything in my marriage began to change. My husband didn\u2019t change, I changed! I made some new decisions, outside of my relationship with the Lord, my husband Leland became my top relationship. I chose him. I chose to love, honor and give him respect. I decided to give him my time and energy, and this was the beginning of when I felt intimacy naturally returning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many women struggle with sexual intimacy in midlife because they focus on outcomes: \u201cI need desire to return,\u201d or \u201cIf he would just change\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But God\u2019s design flips that thinking:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Honor first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Connection first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your responsibility isn\u2019t to fix him\u2014it\u2019s to fully love and respect him as he is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you do, your mindset shifts:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You notice tenderness, humor, and attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You stop strategizing and start enjoying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desire begins to flow naturally\u2014because intimacy is now rooted in heart, mind, and spirit, not pressure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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 Five Ways to Awaken Desire God\u2019s Way<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

God\u2019s design for sexual intimacy isn\u2019t about perfection or trying harder. It\u2019s about choosing love first\u2014consistently, intentionally, and faithfully. When you love your husband because you see him as God made him, not because you want to change him, desire awakens naturally. And that\u2019s what this post is all about: how to align your heart, your mind, and your marriage with God\u2019s blueprint for love, connection, and intimacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to take you back to a time I remember just not feeling that sexually attracted to my husband, for some reason I just didn\u2019t feel interested\u2014if you know what I mean. We were acting more like roommates. I kept thinking to myself, Monette you are distracted by all the things you\u2019re involved in and to be honest, my marriage was not at the top of the list. It felt like one more thing to put attention in to on my to-do list. That\u2019s when I got a huge wakeup call from God and knew he was trying to get my attention. I had a friend who had been married much longer than me, call and tell me \u201cI don\u2019t think my marriage is going to survive, can we get together, I need someone to talk to.\u201d Meeting with her the next few months was the wakeup call I needed. I realized how I was taking my relationship with my husband for granted. Walking alongside my friend, who did eventually divorce, was something I had a hard time wrapping my head around. That\u2019s when everything in my marriage began to change. My husband didn\u2019t change, I changed! I made some new decisions, outside of my relationship with the Lord, my husband Leland became my top relationship. I chose him. I chose to love, honor and give him respect. I decided to give him my time and energy, and this was the beginning of when I felt intimacy naturally returning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many women struggle with sexual intimacy in midlife because they focus on outcomes: \u201cI need desire to return,\u201d or \u201cIf he would just change\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But God\u2019s design flips that thinking:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Honor first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Connection first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your responsibility isn\u2019t to fix him\u2014it\u2019s to fully love and respect him as he is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you do, your mindset shifts:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You notice tenderness, humor, and attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You stop strategizing and start enjoying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desire begins to flow naturally\u2014because intimacy is now rooted in heart, mind, and sp<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a0Five Ways to Awaken Desire God\u2019s Way<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

1. See Him Through God\u2019s Eyes<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Notice the traits that made you fall in love. Focus on gratitude, not critique.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Practice Consistent Respect<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Words and actions that affirm him create a safe emotional environment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Choose Connection Over Correction<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop trying to fix, instruct, or improve. Connection fuels desire. Correction kills it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Invite God into Your Moments of Intimacy<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even small prayers like, \u201cLord, help me love him fully today,\u201d align your heart with His plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Intimacy isn\u2019t a goal. It\u2019s a journey. A soft word, a shared laugh, or a loving glance matters more than perfect timing or flawless performance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reflection Question<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself:\u2028\u201cAm I loving him as God intended\u2014or am I still trying to fix him?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take one practical step today to see, honor, or celebrate him, without expectation of change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prayer<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Lord, thank You for Your design for love, intimacy, and marriage. Help me choose love over control.\u2028Help me honor, respect, and cherish my husband as You do.\u2028Let desire and closeness flow naturally as my heart aligns with Yours.\u2028Teach us to experience connection and passion that honors You and our marriage.\u2028In Jesus\u2019 name, amen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Monette Sedberry is the host of the weekly podcast Midlife Marriage Makeover, where she encourages Christian empty-nester wives to rebuild connection, spark fresh joy, and invite God back into the center of their marriage. A lifelong learner and storyteller, Monette shares practical wisdom, faith-filled mindset shifts, and honest reflections from her own journey\u2014both on her podcast and here at The Best-Life Project. Her words flow with honesty and compassion, giving women hope that change is possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n


Monette lives in Albuquerque, NM with her husband Leland. They have three adult children and love adventuring, traveling, and savoring this new season of life together. Learn more at: http:\/\/linktr.ee\/Miracle_Marriage<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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