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If your vision is a loving, thriving, passionate marriage, look at this area of your life seriously. Are you playing with fire or are you the woman that is naive to think this could never happen to your marriage. I am here to tell you; Satan is alive and well and wants to destroy your marriage.
Intentionally reflecting on these questions can contribute to personal and spiritual growth within our marriages. When we are left to what comes naturally, you and I both know our words and assumptions cannot always be trusted. We can wound and not build up our spouse—which results in less connection in our marriage. I feel marriage is God’s great plan to make us more dependent on him. As Christ changes us, our marriage changes. It’s the transforming of our minds.
What we are really talking about is what is influencing our marriage. Is it well intended friends who are frustrated in their own marriages, is it competition, and listening to the worlds view about marriage? Are you viewing your marriage is a place to prove women are the victim and men are the oppressor where we must fight for our rights? These influences sneak into our marriage can be destructive.
When we really dive deep into this thought of how powerful the emotion of fear is, we can see it at the root problem of our relationship. And the worst part is we don’t want to admit it. Not the husband or you the wife. Somehow, we feel if we admit we have fears, even to ourselves, we will lose the edge. We see it as a weakness, so we get stronger and stronger in holding on to the idea I am right and you are wrong.
How is procrastination slowly destroying your marriage? Again, here is the definition of Procrastination: “Delaying or postponing tasks, often despite knowing this may lead to negative consequences.” What does this bring to mind about your marriage? Are you and your spouse sleeping in separate bedrooms because he snores and you haven’t found a better solution? Has your daily schedule gotten so full, you’re exhausted and drained and have nothing left for your spouse? Whatever your personal situation is, you know you are procrastinating about, it is your personal thing.
We only get this one physical life here on earth. Is your marriage everything it could be? What could you focus on that would improve your marriage? Is it being present and listening? Are you guilty of taking on a role like his mother instead of his best friend and lover? Literally go there, emotionally, what would you regret? Looking at your marriage from this perspective, does it give you some moments of clarity, a sense of urgency? I think this is something we can all check with ourselves on! Use this idea!
Sometimes in life we can get stuck in a place of scarcity and fear. We start playing the game of life to not lose instead of looking at this incredible life that is a gift and create an offense. I believe that’s how God has designed us. I believe he wants us to be optimistic, grateful, and confident. He wants us to use the gifts and talents that make us unique. When you look at your children, don’t you want the best for them. I believe that’s what God wants for us.
Ask yourself the question: If my marriage were everything I would want it to be, what would that look like? This is going to be very important. We can be our own worst enemies, giving up hope and getting stuck in an old mindset. The new year, is the perfect time to take a fresh look. It’s your life. The same-old is always available.
Are you feeling sad? Feeling lonely? Have you built a facade in your marriage? You need the truth here, the real down deep feelings about how you are really feeling about your marriage. I was truthful with you. I felt dead inside. I couldn’t see the future. I didn’t know how it was going to happen. But I wanted more from my marriage.
Just because we have approached our marriage a certain way for so long, doesn’t mean it always has to be that way. I feel we have been given these creative brains that we underutilize. We are such creatures of habit. What if there is a new, exciting way to approach your marriage.
