Encouraging and equipping women over 60 to live their best life!
I believe a lot of us hide behind a mask. But our secret life is exploding with all kinds of fears. If this sounds like you, I want to share that you are normal, there is nothing wrong with you. Having feelings and a thinking brain is what sets us apart from all of the animals in the animal kingdom.
Do you struggle with the trap of people pleasing? We don’t know what we want, we don’t have confidence in who we are and so we start trying to be all things to all people! How did that feel when I said it? Isn’t it true that we’re often doing things for people we don’t even…
We have the freedom to create a new and better vision; to take action, to believe in our abilities and that we have the ability to learn new capabilities! We can change the trajectory of our lives! I don’t care what life-stage we are in. But we must first take 100 percent responsibility for our life. This is a truth that I believe most people don’t get! Thinking that someone else is responsible is a lie! If you are an adult, you are responsible. You’re responsible to make a decision about your personal faith. You’re responsible for where you are right now in your life! This is the piece that if you grasp this idea, the way you look at life will change!
So, how are you handling your emotions? We all experience this, whether it’s our work, our marriage, our parenting, or our friendships. The rollercoaster of our emotions. Today, I am going to ask you for some introspection and some intentional action. Where are you putting our trust? Where are you creating your identity? I believe most people are living their life on an emotional rollercoaster! What is your solution for dealing with the highs and lows? Would you like a tried-and-true solution that has been a game changer for my life?
As Christians, we often find ourselves pouring our energy into one particular area of life, whether it’s our work, our family, our hobbies, or whatever your particular area of choice may be! While it’s commendable to be passionate and dedicated, it is easy to fall into the trap of neglecting other equally important aspects of our lives. This imbalance can lead to burnout, strained relationships, and a lack of overall fulfillment.
Have you ever taken the time to think through what you’re really good at; what you love to do, what comes naturally to you, and you can’t not do this thing because it doesn’t take a lot of willpower, you actually enjoy doing it? When you have the opportunity to do this thing, you say yes! I feel so many of us have spent too much time believing the lie that we should focus our time on trying to improve our weaknesses. And if we buy into this lie and we ignore our strengths, our strengths actually get weaker! Then we find ourselves going through the motions of life! We find ourselves with this longing thought of: “someday if, someday.” This is a fantasy that causes our lives to pass us by. If you find yourself in this place, please read on as I hope to change your thinking!
You might have to encourage your man to enjoy his loves. My friend Yvonne, when asked what was the most outrageously fun thing she had done with her honey, replied: “Zip lining in Alaska and parasailing in Hawaii. He didn’t want to do either of them, but afterward he said it was the best of times… go figure?”
I believe a person’s attitude is extremely important as it shapes our reality and influences every aspect of our lives. Our attitude determines our perception and experience of reality. Two people can be in the same situation but have such different experiences based on their attitudes. A positive attitude opens you up to new opportunities and experiences while a negative attitude limits you.
Let’s make this year a symphony of yeses, a crescendo of courage. Here’s to embracing adventure, no matter our age! Please give me your suggestions or thoughts about the YES concept for YOUR life.
As long as we give our self-worth to our ever-changing circumstances, we are going to suffer. We are going to go from people pleasing—which is being whoever or whatever we need to be to get people to like us to feeling worthless when we feel they don’t like us. It’s all a big fat lie! But we are allowing it. In fact, in some ways, we are creating it. If you are in this dark place right now, I’m here to tell you, the only reason you are here is because at some level you feel you deserve to be here. You are making up a ton of this by believing you are a mind reader and you know people’s intent and motives and you believe it is toward you and you have come up with the ugliest scenarios about these people’s motives, you are the focal point. You are the judge, jury, and sentencer of their motives. The crazy part is you feel you are right!
