Encouraging and equipping women over 60 to live their best life!
As Christians, we often find ourselves pouring our energy into one particular area of life, whether it’s our work, our family, our hobbies, or whatever your particular area of choice may be! While it’s commendable to be passionate and dedicated, it is easy to fall into the trap of neglecting other equally important aspects of our lives. This imbalance can lead to burnout, strained relationships, and a lack of overall fulfillment.
Have you ever taken the time to think through what you’re really good at; what you love to do, what comes naturally to you, and you can’t not do this thing because it doesn’t take a lot of willpower, you actually enjoy doing it? When you have the opportunity to do this thing, you say yes! I feel so many of us have spent too much time believing the lie that we should focus our time on trying to improve our weaknesses. And if we buy into this lie and we ignore our strengths, our strengths actually get weaker! Then we find ourselves going through the motions of life! We find ourselves with this longing thought of: “someday if, someday.” This is a fantasy that causes our lives to pass us by. If you find yourself in this place, please read on as I hope to change your thinking!
You might have to encourage your man to enjoy his loves. My friend Yvonne, when asked what was the most outrageously fun thing she had done with her honey, replied: “Zip lining in Alaska and parasailing in Hawaii. He didn’t want to do either of them, but afterward he said it was the best of times… go figure?”
I believe a person’s attitude is extremely important as it shapes our reality and influences every aspect of our lives. Our attitude determines our perception and experience of reality. Two people can be in the same situation but have such different experiences based on their attitudes. A positive attitude opens you up to new opportunities and experiences while a negative attitude limits you.
Let’s make this year a symphony of yeses, a crescendo of courage. Here’s to embracing adventure, no matter our age! Please give me your suggestions or thoughts about the YES concept for YOUR life.
As long as we give our self-worth to our ever-changing circumstances, we are going to suffer. We are going to go from people pleasing—which is being whoever or whatever we need to be to get people to like us to feeling worthless when we feel they don’t like us. It’s all a big fat lie! But we are allowing it. In fact, in some ways, we are creating it. If you are in this dark place right now, I’m here to tell you, the only reason you are here is because at some level you feel you deserve to be here. You are making up a ton of this by believing you are a mind reader and you know people’s intent and motives and you believe it is toward you and you have come up with the ugliest scenarios about these people’s motives, you are the focal point. You are the judge, jury, and sentencer of their motives. The crazy part is you feel you are right!
With a growth mindset, we’re more likely to push through challenges, put in the hard work, and ultimately achieve better results. It’s all about embracing that journey of constant improvement and development. On the flip side, a fixed mindset can really hold us back. It makes us quick to throw in the towel when things get tough and resistant to change or new opportunities.
We are currently looking at personal development ideas. Today’s topic is emotional mastery or emotional intelligence—which is capacity to be aware of one’s emotions, manage them effectively, motivate oneself, empathize with others, and handle relationships skillfully.
Winning habits create a winning life. The idea here is to look at our current habits. We choose the actions that we choose; that have worked for us. Give yourself the space to ask if there is a new and better habit, a winning habit, that could actually improve that area of your life?
Whether we want to acknowledge it, or not, we are all living out our stories. We all have a set of expectations for ourselves. We see ourselves a certain way and we make decisions that match that. Some of us have never really thought about this, but it’s true. These expectations have come from past experiences, our upbringing and our culture. If you don’t believe me, do this experiment, next time you’re with a group of friends listen to the conversations. When you hear: “I’m a ….” Listen to the answer. Here’s a few ideas of what you might hear: I’m a mom, I’m a runner, I’m a hack at tennis, I’m retired and getting old, I’m an author and I’m working on my next book, I’m just getting by, life sucks, I’m a person that started a non-profit, I am just existing, I’m an empty nester, I have no energy and I’m lost, I’m a realtor, I’m just going through the motions, I can’t wait ‘til Friday. Now think about yourself, we may not say it out loud, but we have some of these same thoughts in our head. We all have stories we live in.
