Encouraging and equipping women over 60 to live their best life!
I don’t know about you, but time feels like it is speeding up. It seems like it was just Christmas and now we are in August! I want to talk about this topic: Fierce Belief in Possibilities, because if you don’t take the time to really think about new possibilities, time just marches on and…
As long as we give our self-worth to our ever-changing circumstances, we are going to suffer. We are going to go from people pleasing—which is being whoever or whatever we need to be to get people to like us to feeling worthless when we feel they don’t like us. It’s all a big fat lie! But we are allowing it. In fact, in some ways, we are creating it. If you are in this dark place right now, I’m here to tell you, the only reason you are here is because at some level you feel you deserve to be here. You are making up a ton of this by believing you are a mind reader and you know people’s intent and motives and you believe it is toward you and you have come up with the ugliest scenarios about these people’s motives, you are the focal point. You are the judge, jury, and sentencer of their motives. The crazy part is you feel you are right!
With a growth mindset, we’re more likely to push through challenges, put in the hard work, and ultimately achieve better results. It’s all about embracing that journey of constant improvement and development. On the flip side, a fixed mindset can really hold us back. It makes us quick to throw in the towel when things get tough and resistant to change or new opportunities.
I’m getting ready to head back to my hometown in NY to attend my 50th high school class reunion. How. Is. That. Even. Possible? I truly don’t feel like it’s been 50 years since the days of earth science, English literature, or world history. But the calendar says it’s true. And so do my arthritic…
Many of us don’t like change. We become accustomed to that which is familiar, and when different happens, we fight it rather than accepting. In the last six months, I’ve discovered different is okay, even good, at times. Positives exist in new and different, but we often must look for those positives. Sometimes it’s easier to adopt a negative attitude and drop into a pattern of feeling sorry for ourselves. Even in difficult life seasons, good is present.
Winning habits create a winning life. The idea here is to look at our current habits. We choose the actions that we choose; that have worked for us. Give yourself the space to ask if there is a new and better habit, a winning habit, that could actually improve that area of your life?
Whether we want to acknowledge it, or not, we are all living out our stories. We all have a set of expectations for ourselves. We see ourselves a certain way and we make decisions that match that. Some of us have never really thought about this, but it’s true. These expectations have come from past experiences, our upbringing and our culture. If you don’t believe me, do this experiment, next time you’re with a group of friends listen to the conversations. When you hear: “I’m a ….” Listen to the answer. Here’s a few ideas of what you might hear: I’m a mom, I’m a runner, I’m a hack at tennis, I’m retired and getting old, I’m an author and I’m working on my next book, I’m just getting by, life sucks, I’m a person that started a non-profit, I am just existing, I’m an empty nester, I have no energy and I’m lost, I’m a realtor, I’m just going through the motions, I can’t wait ‘til Friday. Now think about yourself, we may not say it out loud, but we have some of these same thoughts in our head. We all have stories we live in.
Doing this series and creating this tool has given me incredible clarity moving forward in life. I want this for you! Having a personal, moral compass; a standard by which to make decisions offers great discernment on the “who, what, where, when and how” decisions in our life. We all make decisions on where we will put our time, attention and effort. Now, you can ask yourself: “Does it align with my personal life blueprint; my mission statement?”
Our exploration across various domains—sports, business, Christian faith, and personal relationships—reveals the consistent threads of faith, trust, and resilience that undergird effective leadership and strong connections. From the teamwork and discipline in sports to the strategic vision and adaptability in business, from the servant leadership and guidance in Christian faith to the communication skills and empathy in personal relationships, these principles form the cornerstone of success and meaningful interactions.
Applying cross-domain lessons can enhance our effectiveness. For example, business communication techniques can be applied to resolve conflicts in personal relationships. Christian examples of extraordinary teamwork can be used in sports, business, and family dynamics.
