We can love our imperfect husbands! God can show us how! God has given you this gift of marriage to show you who you are, and He’s given you a person to love and to love you; to teach you and train you to love—even when you don’t feel like it. Marriage teaches you to stop building a self-protective exterior. The world teaches you to build barriers, create boundaries, love yourself, build your self-esteem—which is the opposite of God’s design for marriage. Our goal is to get you back to that loving, thriving relationship with the man you married.
Category: Soul
It’s Not Head Knowledge, It’s Heart Knowledge
I’ve read the marriage books, gone to the seminars, gotten all the tactical things to try to make a better marriage. And you know what? They work temporally. They are Band-Aid fixes. But they will not work long term. Why do I know? Because it’s not about getting more head knowledge. I can give you all the scriptures to back up the foundation of why marriages are difficult; that Satan is prowling around ready to devour marriages. All of that is true. As a Christian, you know some of the verses. You may be a better Bible scholar than I am. Your problem is not that you don’t have enough information. The problem is you don’t believe it is you!
Illuminate Your Christmas with Faith and Joy
At the juncture of the Christmas season and family celebrations lies a potential treasure of tradition. Old handwritten recipes carefully written by a long-gone grandmother are resurrected as you prepare her memorable dish. The holidays are a season of fondly recalling prior Christmas memories while building new ones to cherish. Nothing remains static or stays the same. Life moves forward like a living mural, transporting memories and traditions and creating something new. Traditions are fluid—they only seem static from a distance.
Is Your Marriage Worth Saving?
Why didn’t God give me unconditional love for my spouse. It is not the same. I can remember some of our first arguments. I can remember when I felt injustice, unfairness, his anger, words I said that I still regret in a fight we had 20 years ago. I have a pretty good recall of the ugliness we went through in our marriage. I’ve wondered why didn’t God give me that same unconditional love for my husband that he gave me for my kids. Have you ever thought about this?
Is this Lie Destroying Your Marriage?
I find that unworthiness is the root cause of many of our issues in marriage. I briefly talked about it in the previous installment and want to go deeper on the topic now. Do You Feel Unworthy? Do you ever feel unworthy? Can you remember when you first felt these feelings? I think it can…
What’s the Hidden Key to Transforming Your Marriage?
Getting married is not the finish line. It’s the starting line. We are talking about the realities of marriage. Now, what the secular world view of Marriage tells you, when you get to this place of dissatisfaction with your spouse, trade him in. You can do better. The problems you are having in your marriage are because you married the wrong person. You’ve tried to change him, you couldn’t. Or he’s been trying to change you and he couldn’t. Maybe you’ve had children, and you don’t have the same views on how to parent. Your family did it one way and that’s how it should be done. And we all know the issue of money and the disagreements that come from that. Marriage is a lot. It’s not for the faint of heart. If you’ve been married for 2 years, 10, 20, or 30, you have worked out countless arguments. It’s the reality of marriage. It is two imperfect people trying to figure out how to do life together.
Is Your Marriage Becoming What You Dreamed Of?
This post is part 5 of my series on marriage. While it can be read on its own, I encourage you go back and read the four prior to this one. In them, I share with you how I feel God is calling me to talk about marriage. Again I’m a Bible-believing Christian and I…
Are You Making These Three Mistakes with Your Marriage?
I believe God created marriage! I believe that within the structure and boundaries of marriage God transforms us to be who he designed us to be and transforms our spouse to be who God designed him to be. If this is true, which by faith I believe it is, listening to the world and getting instruction relying on the world’s ever evolving and changing views about marriage, can you see how destructive it is. It’s two different things! We are being deceived!
Discover Real Secrets to a Thriving Marriage
What I am doing in these first few posts on marriage is laying the foundation. I am trying to lay it out in simple terms. I believe these are the foundational truths of marriage. For me, as I’ve journeyed through marriage and hit rock bottom at times, coming back to the basics and God’s truths has always been the answer. Whether it’s pride, unforgiveness, a hardened heart, self-loathing, getting caught up in people pleasing, wanting to throw in the towel, you name it, I’ve probably experienced it. 30+years is a long time!
Blessed to be Content
At its core, this is really what the Best-Life Project is about. Realizing what you want and being happy with it. When we know what we want our future to be, it helps us make decisions today that move us toward that end goal. Ten years from now, even two years from now, my vision for my future may change. I may be tired of dealing with workers and customers. I may want to travel more. But for today, I’m good.