Encouraging and equipping women over 60 to live their best life!
I work with many stepfamilies. I want them to understand that just because your stepchild may act distant, ugly, or disinterested, there are many big emotions swirling in their head and heart. Stepkids, young and old have conflicting emotions about stepparents.
Life comes with problems that insult our expectations. As a hospice grief counselor I walk into sadness on a daily basis. Guess what I hear most often from those who invite me into their pain? Love stories. Their tears are followed many times with laughter as they celebrate in their hearts the attributes of this person they cherished. For those who stayed close to the patient during the last days of their life, they are left with great peace. For those who stayed away, we talk about their regret.
What we are really talking about is what is influencing our marriage. Is it well intended friends who are frustrated in their own marriages, is it competition, and listening to the worlds view about marriage? Are you viewing your marriage is a place to prove women are the victim and men are the oppressor where we must fight for our rights? These influences sneak into our marriage can be destructive.
Sudden death is, by its very nature, unexpected. We all think we’ll have the next moment, hour, day, month, year to express feelings and speak the love we hold for those dear to us. January 3, 2024, ended my chance to say, to my husband, words left unsaid. I was rushing that day, in a…
When we really dive deep into this thought of how powerful the emotion of fear is, we can see it at the root problem of our relationship. And the worst part is we don’t want to admit it. Not the husband or you the wife. Somehow, we feel if we admit we have fears, even to ourselves, we will lose the edge. We see it as a weakness, so we get stronger and stronger in holding on to the idea I am right and you are wrong.
(a surprise “Rest of the Story” to blog post “Earth Angels and the Jaws of Life”) On August 23, 2023, my husband, Scott, and I heard horrific sounds. We ran toward the sound and ended up aiding the of victims of a three-car crash that happened at the entrance of our neighborhood. We both assisted…
“Laura, my 66-year-old mom just told me that she and my dad are getting divorced. I’m in shock. They have been married for thirty-nine years. Why? What are they thinking?” This daughter can’t fathom her parents getting divorced in their senior years. However, is it’s not that atypical. Baby Boomer couples are divorcing at astounding…
How is procrastination slowly destroying your marriage? Again, here is the definition of Procrastination: “Delaying or postponing tasks, often despite knowing this may lead to negative consequences.” What does this bring to mind about your marriage? Are you and your spouse sleeping in separate bedrooms because he snores and you haven’t found a better solution? Has your daily schedule gotten so full, you’re exhausted and drained and have nothing left for your spouse? Whatever your personal situation is, you know you are procrastinating about, it is your personal thing.
We only get this one physical life here on earth. Is your marriage everything it could be? What could you focus on that would improve your marriage? Is it being present and listening? Are you guilty of taking on a role like his mother instead of his best friend and lover? Literally go there, emotionally, what would you regret? Looking at your marriage from this perspective, does it give you some moments of clarity, a sense of urgency? I think this is something we can all check with ourselves on! Use this idea!
Valentine’s Day 2024 is my first Valentine’s Day in 44 years without my husband. Please do not feel sorry for me. I’ve received unexpected cards, chocolates, and other expressions of love. And I have a dinner date with the cutest, sweetest 6-year-old little man, who looks a lot like his Bop. Our first date was…
